
I want to talk a little bit about some bad habits I have regarding clothes/fashion/style and my weight loss journey; namely the lack of my stylish wardrobe. I don't know if I'm a fool for feeling this way but for some reason I have let myself buy into this lie that life will not really begin until I get to my goal weight. Meaning, I won't feel good about myself until I get to my goal weight, I won't look great in clothes until I get to my goal weight, I don't need to dress up/take pride in my appearance until I get to my goal weight, or I won't be happy until I get to my goal weight. I'm not sure what my malfunction is but I have bought into all of these lies and I've just been kind of floating around waiting for life to happen until then. But the fact is, life is happening right, now regardless of the number on the scale or the size of my jeans. It is going to take however many months, or years, it is going to take for me to get healthy. So until then life is still going to happen. I can either throw in the towel and not live or I can use that towel to wipe the sweat off my face and then go out there to carpe the hell out of this diem! That sounds like a MUCH better plan and that is what I am going to buy into from here on out! Thank you very much!
These are a few bad habits that I have been doing for the past two years:
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| 09/19/2012 Outfit of the Day |
- Wearing comfy, stretchy, black workout/yoga pants all the time. It's kind of hard to keep track of your weight in clothes that expand. lol. Yikes! Also, I have noticed that the more I lounge around or go about my day in these comfy pants, running shoes, baggy t shirts, and hoodies the worse I feel about myself. It sends me into a huge funk/rut. I literally feel worse about myself from the lack of effort I put into my appearance.
- I also do not want to spend money on clothes that I don't plan on wearing much longer because I am going to lose weight anyway. Besides I have a closet filled with really cute clothes already. Those cute clothes should be motivation to lose weight and quickly, right? Well, right and wrong. I am losing weight, slowly, but not fast enough to enjoy those clothes anytime soon. I have refused to spend money on a new wardrobe the past year and a half but in reality, I really need to buy clothes that fit me NOW. My skinny clothes will have to wait and I need to come to terms that these expenses are really investments!
- I don't know how to dress my current body shape and sometimes it's difficult to dress an hourglass figure. I go into stores wanting to wear the cute outfits that are on display and more than 75% of the time I leave feeling terrible about myself because most of the stores don't really carry my size and whatever is "in style" does not flatter all body types. So I needed to stop being a slave to fashion!
- Being afraid of my curves & hiding under tons of fabric.
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| Summer Favorites: Dresses, proper fitting jeans, cute tops, clutches, and high heels. Ditch the flip flops/sneakers. |
My advice:
Leave the workout clothes for your workouts. Leave the comfy clothes for relaxing at home. If you are in a rut and not giving yourself some TLC...Go play dress up, STAT. Not ready for that kind of effort? Start off with something smaller. Maybe wear/buy a cute simple dress, put your hair in a low pony tail, and put on some lip gloss and mascara.
Money is tight for me right now but I am so tired of feeling and looking frumpy. Look at the money that you are spending as an investment. Take time to try on different styles of jeans and buy the ones that feel good and look great on you. buy a few cute tops, maybe a dress, and some cute shoes. Here is where the investment comes in: When you look good, you FEEL good and that is what really matters here. It is so important that we love and embrace ourselves at all times.
Sometimes it is better to spend the extra $5 to $10 to buy a pair of jeans that fits better than the cheaper pair that may not do anything for your body. This is not always the case but I find that it has been my biggest issue. I will buy the cheapest item but end up hating how frumpy it makes me feel. Sometimes it seems like being frugal, when it comes to clothes, bites me in the rear. LOL. Also, you don't have to buy everything all at once if money is an issue. Buy a couple of pieces at a time if you have to.
Fashion is such a weird thing. 1) It's always changing, who can keep up? 2) It's not a one size fits all deal 3) It sucks me in and I can't stand it! Window shopping is fun and sometimes I see an outfit that I just HAVE to try on. Most of the time I feel like crap when the outfit is on my body and it doesn't look as good as it did in the window and other times I cant put the damn thing on to save my life and wonder: That's an XL?! Then I leave feeling super sorry for myself. Know your body. If a certain fabric doesn't flatter your body, stay away from it, no matter how cute a trend is. I have had a lot of practice with this one over the years. There is a certain fabric, I need to learn the name of it so I can curse it properly - lol, that just clings to my body in really unattractive ways. I stay away from it like the plague. Just remember, fashion is always changing. Style is something you create. So feel free to experiment, express yourself, mix and match, think
outside of the box, whatever you do...don't limit yourself to just department stores. Try thrift shops or vintage shops too. If you are really crafty...make your own clothes.
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| Don't forget the little things: Do your nails, simple manicure is fine. Accessories are always fun! Try a dramatic eye look or play up your lips with some red lipstick. Va Va voom! |
I was afraid of my bigger hourglass figure. I mean, I was afraid of my boobies and my arse. For real. I'm used to having an hourglass figure and I have always had one, I just was not used to it being so much fuller, softer, and fluffier. I didn't know how to work with my current body and I'd freak out and hide under tons of fabric. Even though I have bigger boobs and bigger hips/butt, I still have a waist that I need to show off more. I'm not doing myself any favors by drowning myself in shapeless outfits, if anything, I end up making myself look bigger. So don't be afraid, embrace your curves! Really take the time to find articles of clothing that flatter your shape and if an item is almost perfect but little things here and there aren't working for you, you can always have them tailored.
Obviously I am still learning as I go but that is my advice and I have been following it through out the summer when I have gone out shopping. I have also gone through my closet recently and found out that I am starting to fit in shirts and jeans that didn't used to fit a year ago. I have also donated clothes that do absolutely nothing for me! So my wardrobe is growing a little bit and I am feeling fantastic!
I have purchased a lot of high heels over the last couple of years and I am so happy that I am finally putting them to good use! They killed my feet and my knees before due to all the extra weight but lately they have been easier to wear. Also, it doesn't help that I was just so use to wearing my running shoes everywhere and they are comfy compared to heels. I'd wear a cute outfit but still wear my running shoes. Oh man, that's so bad. lol. I really enjoy and love being a girly girl, it's time to act like it and leave the running shoes at home when it's time to party. Time to spice things up!
So whatever misconceptions/lies you are buying into regarding your beautiful body, your weight loss journey, your personal style/clothes, your life, just stop it. If you are not enjoying your life now, let those lies/plans go that are not serving you and embrace NOW because we all deserve to be happy.
While all these tips are about superficial things please don't mistake them as my way of telling you: The only happiness/substance as a human being depends on how you look. No, no, no, no. I am ALL about inner beauty, it is very much important to me, but when you put forth the effort to look and dress nice, you do feel better! Inside and out. So go out there and strut your stuff.
Thanks for reading!